Leading by example is a key role in parenting

My youngest son went to youth camp with the church last weekend. The camp ended with a special service for the youth and their families at the church.
Through skits, music and dance the youth showed some of what they had learned. But the service turned out to be a time of learning for the parents as well.
One of the camp leaders said there was a “spiritual drought” in today’s world. I never thought of it quite that way but it is true.
Young people today are brought up in a world where violence, promiscuity and a wide range of vices are as close as a button on the television remote. Sin and wrong choices are so much a part of their lives that, unless they are taught otherwise, they accept that behavior as a normal, acceptable lifestyle.
It is up to parents to raise their children in a Christian atmosphere that will help them as they grow and make choices on their own. Parents, older relatives and church leaders must take an active role in leading today’s children and youth.
The way we do that is not by preaching at them or using the phrase so often used by parents – “because I said so!” In my experience, that is only more likely to lead them straight into the behavior you are trying to prevent or to cause anger and rebellion.
Ephesians 6:4 says, “Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.”
While there are definitely times we must say “no” and we need to guide them in the right direction, the best way to teach our children is through example.
When our children see us going to church and praising the Lord, when they see us acting in a Christian manner, they are more likely to follow or example.
Titus 2:7 says, “And you yourself must be an example to them by doing good works of every kind. Let everything you do reflect the integrity and seriousness of your teaching.”
The thing is, it can’t just be an act. Children are smart – they know when you aren’t being honest. Our children live in our homes and know us better than anyone else except our spouses and our Lord. If they see us acting one way in the home and another in public they know we aren’t living an honest life.
Our children know how we act in stressful and hard times. It is easy to set a Christian example when everything is going well, but sometimes not so easy when things become hard.
We have to truly let our lives be led by the Holy Spirit. Every decision we make, every word we speak, our every action must reflect our love for the Lord and His for us at all times.
We must turn to Him to lead us in parenting our children. We also must let our children see that we turn to God for everything, so they will know that it is through Him we are made strong and that He deserves all the glory.
Parenting isn’t easy, it is the hardest job I have ever had. There have been many times when I have just said “Ok, God. I give up – I don’t know what else to do. I’m giving this child to you.”
You know, I think that is exactly what we are supposed to do. We raise our children in a Christian home, guide them through example and love, and trust God for the rest.